Introduction: What does it mean to be supportive?

Supportive people are those who have a positive attitude and are willing to help others. They are there for you when you need them the most. They are always ready to offer a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on or an encouraging word. Supportive people don’t judge others, they just want what is best for them in life and will do anything they can to make that happen.

The word “support” comes from the Latin word “sustentāre”, which means “to hold up”. This is why supportive people will always be there for you, holding you up when you need it most, no matter what happens in your life.

What is the Best Way to Be Supportive?

What is the best way to be supportive?

There are many ways to be supportive and it’s important to remember that no one way is better than another. It’s also important to recognize that not everyone needs the same level of support. For example, someone who has just lost their job may need a lot of emotional support, while someone who just got a promotion may need more practical help.

An important thing to remember is that you don’t have to be perfect and there is no such thing as being too supportive. Just try your best and do what feels right in the moment.

Finally, you can offer practical support by helping them solve their problems or challenges.

How Parents Can Provide Support for Their Children

Parents are the first and most important support system for their children. They can provide encouragement, guidance, and help children to develop good habits.

Parents should be aware of their child’s emotional needs. They need to make time for themselves so that they can have the energy to support their child. Parents should also be aware of the signs of addiction or mental health issues in their child so that they can get help for them as soon as possible.

Ten Tips for Supporting Someone with Depression or Anxiety without Overdoing It

1. Listen without judging.

2. Ask questions to show you care and build trust.

3. Offer support, not advice.

4. Keep your expectations realistic and don’t push too hard for change too soon.

5. Be patient, understanding and forgiving of mistakes or relapse episodes that happen as the person is recovering from depression or anxiety disorder

6. Be patient with yourself, it’s not easy to support someone with a mental illness

7. Remember to take care of yourself too

8. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it

9. Encourage them to stay connected with their social network, even if they are feeling down at the moment

10 . Remind them that they are not alone

How to Be Supportive and Provide It in the Right Way

There is no universal way of being supportive. To be supportive, you have to know the person and what they need.

If you are someone who needs help and you have someone who is a good listener, you may find that just talking about your problems for a while will make you feel better.

For someone else, it might be to talk about how they plan to solve their problem.

For someone else, it might be to talk about what they are doing to try to make themselves feel better.

What is the Ideal Supportiveness?

The Ideal Supportiveness is a new way of looking at the concept of supportiveness. It is not about just being supportive but about being the type of person that you would want to be supported by.

Supportiveness is not just about giving someone a hug when they are feeling down or giving them words of encouragement. It’s also about knowing what your friend needs and providing it for them without being asked for it.

How Does Lack of Supportiveness Affect Relationships?

Lack of supportiveness affects relationships in many ways. It can lead to feelings of loneliness, insecurity, and self-doubt. It can also lead to feelings of anger and resentment.

A lack of supportiveness in a relationship can be caused by a variety of things including feeling like you are not being heard, feeling like you are being taken advantage of, or feeling like you are not getting your needs met. Some people may feel that their partner is not supportive when they constantly criticize them or they never offer any praise or encouragement.

How Can We Take Proactive Steps Towards Being More Supportive?

The first step in being more supportive is to make sure that we are not making assumptions about other people. It is important that we take the time to listen to what others are saying and understand their situation.

Another important way of being more supportive is by acknowledging the person’s efforts and accomplishments. We need to be sensitive towards how hard it can be for people who are struggling with a mental health condition. This can be done by showing empathy and understanding, as well as providing them with support when they need it most.

Conclusion: How Can You & I Be More Supportive?

It is not easy to be supportive when you are feeling down. But it is important to be supportive and not judge the person going through it.

Here are some ways in which you can help someone who is going through a tough time:

– Show that you care by asking how they are feeling and listening without judging them.

– Encourage them to talk about what they are going through and offer solutions if they need help.

– Let them know that there will be better days ahead and remind them of the things that make them happy.

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What is Fear?

Fear is our natural defense mechanism against anything that can cause us harm. It’s the natural mechanism that gives a warning sign that things might not go as planned.

Experiencing fear can cause behavioral changes and result in an increase in heart rate, make you nauseous, sweat and make you more perceptive and be on the lookout for various environmental dangers. You will begin to evaluate things more than once and give them the benefit of the doubt.

Fear can not only come as a result of a physical threat but also through the different choices that we make in life. Each choice that we make has some form of fear attached to it. More often than not, the fear is right. It can help us be practical and take logical decisions rather than irrational ones that may be influenced.

How to get rid of Fear?

So how do you overcome fear? Simple. You can’t overcome it. You can’t run from it or give in to it. But you can learn to manage it better as time passes. Let me tell you why letting go of fear is impossible and my thoughts on how to get around fear.

“You don’t get less afraid, you get braver.

Jordan Peterson

What are the forms of Fear?

Fear can take many forms but some are very common, such as:

• Fear of embarrassment.
• Afraid to lose someone you value.
• Fear of facing failure & poverty.
• Fear of public speaking.
• Afraid of the dark or some external factors.
• Trauma or Bad experience that induces fear.

Fear doesn’t usually mean a threat, it can also be something unknown that you are afraid to explore. Fear can prevent you from experiencing the parts in life associated with it. For example, a person afraid of heights will never visit mountains or experience sky diving as a matter of fact. Ask yourself, “What do you fear the most?” and begin to understand why do you fear them. Most probably its because then you’ve never ventured beyond that point.

Are Fear and Phobia the same?

Fear is associated with emotion while Phobia refers to an anxiety disorder that results when it exists for a long-term and usually extreme.

Fear of the dark is the best example I can come up with, as someone who was afraid of it since childhood. It is also the most fearful thing for many people while growing up. We used to imagine that there’s a ghost under the bed or in the closet hiding to get a hold of you. Honestly, there weren’t any ghosts there (obviously). While most of us aren’t afraid of the darkness itself, it might be some imaginary factors that instill fear in you.

Phobia is most commonly referred to as irrational fear. For someone experiencing a phobia, they are most likely to think of it as real and experience the trauma and various side effects. Having continual fear of something for over 6 months can be a phobia. If you are scared while you even think of it, that is something to be concerned about. And it may require professional help to get over it.

Misconception about fear

While fear is a defense mechanism, it only exists to help you through a tough situation. And no one would voluntarily want to experience fear. The common solutions to fear that indicate you to overcome them by suppressing fear or having to manipulate you by misdirection may not always work. It may be a short-term solution but it might go out of hand start haunting you again.

Some would say “Avoid the things that put you in that tough spot. Take precautionary steps to avoid being exposed to fear”. While it sounds like a good idea, it clearly wouldn’t work. If you try to have workarounds, it generally means that you can’t solve it and are trying to move away from it.

In my case, I knew there wasn’t anything under the bed or closet but still feared it anyway. Nothing really happened to me when I reached out to get something under my bed. But I didn’t take it as something to be not feared for some reason.

Avoiding fear doesn’t make you feel any better and only make matters worse because when you still face it, the knowledge about it and knowing how to walk away from it will not help. Sure, you will know why you are afraid but you will not get over it truly.

The only Step to overcome fear

The best way to overcome fear is to go out there and face it head-on. Heightened senses and warning signs that put you in danger are a force to reckon with. The power that you need to face it is already within you. You have to prepare yourself mentally and put yourself in a discomforting spot.

I decided to watch a lot of horror movies as I was scared of them anyway. I sure was prepared to see in real life, any of the characters the movies showed. When I kept watching them I was scared as hell but to my surprise, the experience of watching the horrors of them and (sometimes) being stopped by protagonists made me realize something and arrive at an interesting conclusion.

The fear inside me didn’t go away at all, but I managed to become more immune to fear. Then I learned to be braver and better at coping with fear. Later, after many years I came to know about the process as behavioral therapy and it means to expose the subject to its worst fear in a controlled environment.

When you expose yourself to the source of fear multiple times, you eventually get used to it and begin to be braver. As a result, you will no longer be afraid of what you used to fear the most.

The effective solution to overcome fear is to not run away from it but to embrace it and face it head-on.

Other ways to overcome fear

This solution is not guaranteed to work as putting you in a tough spot may not be easy. At times like this, it is recommended to gradually expose yourself to such fear but being consistent in it. Just like video games where the protagonist beats the demons and zombies if you could visualize yourself the same way it will be beneficial.

The mind doesn’t know the difference between you visualizing it and actually experiencing it, so this is another way to expose yourself to fear at a controlled level of risk.

Check this PC game out if you want to experience a psychological thriller and overcome fear: Alan Wake – Try this game out.

However, if you are fond of books, you can give these a read: The Big Leap, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook.

‘Can a man still be brave if he’s afraid?’

‘That is the only time a man can be brave’

Bottomline

If you want to tackle the fears that hold you back and take back control in life, you have to face them with all your might. The people who smile during hard times are considered the strongest of them all. If you wish to be brave and conquer all your fears, make yourself uncomfortable by attempting things that you are scared of. You will get through them and learn to live with them. You only need to take the necessary steps for it. We never truly overcome our fears, but learn to adapt and manage them better.

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Why do you feel like giving up?

People generally think of giving up if they don’t have a plan of action or don’t see the desired results. Sometimes, there’s just no reason. You lose hope, feel tired of everything and don’t want to move out of your bed. Have you wondered why you felt that way? It may be self-doubt, despair, failure or any demotivating factors.

While it’s easy to give up, it even easier to stay on the path once you start to believe in yourself and your goals.

When you are just starting out, you won’t know if a decision is good or bad. You doubt yourself thinking if it’s all worth it. But tell yourself that it will all make sense in the end. And the pain you go through today will be replaced by the results you get tomorrow.

Remember why you started

Sometimes when things get hard we visualize all the bad things that happened to us. Instead, think about why you kept going after all this time. And if you’re reading this, your track record of getting through the bad days is 100%. ‘The reason why’ will overshadow all the bad things you endured and supercharge you to keep you going on the path. Remember the people who tell you that you can’t do anything? It’s time to prove them wrong.

Everyone gets demotivated at some point from doing the things that they even love the most. You need to strengthen your resolve and see that your purpose defeats all the other factors that hinder you. When your goal is clear, it takes courage to go after it and achieve when everybody thinks it’s impossible.

Focus on the Process

Most often, when we attempt something and don’t quite get there, it often leads to frustration. It’s important to not only focus on the outcome but also to enjoy the process to get to it. After all, it takes time to get the desired result. Instead of being result-oriented, be process-oriented to enjoy the simple things that you learn along the way. There’s a famous saying for this, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” If you learn to do the things you like in a way that brings you joy, you will never have to think of giving up.

While being focused on the process, don’t lose sight of the goal. Even if you win the battle, the war matters the most. The process sets you up and nurtures you till you reach the destination, that is the ultimate goal.

Feel the Pain and grow stronger

Pain makes you stronger and helps you grow both physically and mentally. There isn’t a better teacher than pain, as once you learn to endure it, you master the art of not giving up. Those who do not understand true pain can never understand true peace.

Sometimes you must hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain because life’s greatest lessons are learned through pain.

When pain teaches you something, endure it, learn from it and grow yourself. After everything you’ve gone through in life, you must not feel like giving up. Tap into your strength from within and realize that you’re meant for greatness.

Keep yourself on the move

The discomfort that you feel today is temporary and it will change for the better. Persistence will be the driving factor to keep you working hard and making things happen. When you feel down, write what you feel and what pulls you down. This will help you evaluate what you’ve been doing wrong to cope up with it and take corrective measures. All the work that you do has meaning to it and will make sense once you start performing it regularly.

For example, exercising regularly trains your body and mind. When you do it for the long-term you will begin to see changes that benefit you. By regularly tracking your progress with To-Do lists, you can be more productive and also keeps you from deviating from the goals.

Nothing great will come if you quit

It’s very common that we want results and the rewards that come with it but don’t want to put in the necessary effort. When you want to be like someone, ask yourself if you have what it takes to be like them. Are you putting in the efforts like them? Are you willing to fail like them and keep trying without giving up? If you only read the success stories, that’s not enough. Try to learn the failures, pain, loss, problems and every hardship behind all those stories.

If you begin to see success, you will never regret doing something. Sometimes the beginning is difficult but once you take the first step, there’s nothing holding you back.

Keep positive people around you

It is so easy to feel demotivated by someone when they push their opinions on you. But it feels more inspiring when the right person pushes you to achieve something great. You will need all the encouragement that you can get from the positive people. They usually have your back when things don’t go the way you want it to. Having positive influencers can be a distinguishing factor between you and someone who has already given up. After all the struggle, you might need someone to lean on when things don’t go as planned out.

Bottomline

Keep going until you reach the destination and cross all the hurdles that life has for you. Giving up doesn’t mean you let only yourself down, it means that you let down everyone who trusts you. It may be easier to leave behind everything and turn your back, but it takes all that you have to show you are capable of much more than that. Life is not always fair or filled with good things, you must learn to go through the night to enjoy the sunrise.

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Not all heroes wear capes, but you know that there’s one within you who has been doing it all right from day one. While you focus on fear which is often disguised as practicality, the result at the other side goes unexplored. Don’t lose your true self and choose a path because of the fear of something you never tried out in the first place. Find why you are here and what you’re destined to do. As life’s greatest purpose is to pass on what you know to others, there can’t be any greater pleasure than that.

“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”

E.E Cummings

Realize your true self.

Realizing your potential and finding what you are capable of doing is only the first step. Most people assume they can’t do something without even trying. That may be something that others force us to believe because they never tried it.

If someone were to tell you that you can never be someone that you dream of being, don’t limit yourself and get demotivated. Only you know yourself better than anyone else. Be ready to accept who you are but never fit into any mold. Because we are not copies of each other. What worked for someone else may not work for you. People speak from their view of how they see it, not how you would see it. Stop comparing yourself to the people around you. The ego inside you always keeps reminding that you are never good enough and you have to keep changing yourself to be more like them. Because you won’t know what is actually enough. Let me tell you, you are enough. Just the way you are. Accepting this will bring you much closer to a higher state of consciousness.

Be quiet and observe.

See yourself for who you are, not how others view you. Sometimes, you have to step back and take a deep breath to hear and understand what’s going on around you. The silence can be deafening too. But don’t let that fear get to you, as it will make you limit yourself to what others think of you. Don’t cage yourself, you are meant for greatness and that will only happen if you see you for who you truly are. Observe the positive and negative things about you and embrace it. When you accept it, then you will begin to see positive changes inside you, giving you a feeling that you’re not bounded anymore. Be ready to take in more good things that will benefit you and ignore the bad things. It’s alright if you were born weak, but it isn’t right to remain that way.

Believe in yourself.

When you believe nothing is ever impossible, there is nothing to lock you down to earth. You can leap high and reach greater heights if you drop the doubt, fear and other factors that drag you down. Fear and doubt are the two major factors that prevent people from going after what they like. A reverse process could be implemented here. Find experience, role models, evidence and facts that support your belief. And that belief now tells you that something is possible instead of the other way around.

We are only limited by our mind and that barrier will break if you believe yourself enough and do what you love.

Listen to your intuition.

There is no such thing as purely rational thought. Sometimes there’s a gut feeling that tells you that you have to do this. We are guided by emotions and emotions will help take shortcuts in arriving at a decision. An inner voice tells you that you like something that you do and you listen to it. When you follow your inner voice, it will guide you to unlock your true self. That doesn’t mean you have to completely ignore your logical decisions. But there should be a balance between intuition and logical decision making. Finding the fine line between these two can be difficult and that’s something that will take time to master.

If you feel like you were born to accomplish something, that feeling was triggered by yourself as a result of the inner voices guiding you.

Find what others think of you.

If you can’t assess yourself, take the help of others and ask them what they think of you. The answer isn’t going to be perfect as we know it. But it will indicate a few things that you may have overlooked and never knew about. You may be excellent at what you do but if you see others complimenting you for your other talents, it’s time to explore to those a bit as well. If you can’t seem to find your true self, let others do the hard part of giving you the options to get started. While this may not prove to work all the time, it certainly can give you an overview of how you are being viewed by someone else.

Some people hear and some people listen, you need to learn to understand the difference.

The real you is what’s underneath all the masks you wear and if you keep looking for it outside, you may never find it. When you understand yourself and your purpose in life gets big enough to conquer your fear, that’s when you know that you have reached your greatest potential.

Build something bigger than yourself.

Before you get started, an idea may just never exist. When you start working on it, they will come to exist and be clearer. And when you’re done building the idea, you will find a sense of completion. Build an idea that would change you and in turn, others around you for the better. When you find yourself adding more value to the people in your life, that’s where your true self lies. A greater self doesn’t vanish or rot away as time passes. It would be something that you pass on to others and inspire them to bring completion to others’ lives. Our lives are bound to each other and that’s exactly the reason why we should make this world a better place for everyone to live.

Bottomline

Realize your true self and connect with people, not to be famous but to serve a greater purpose. If you don’t have the vision to make the world a better place, then you are wasting your life. Have faith in yourself and share it with someone who might be searching for it all along.

Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. When you understand yourself, you will find peace, and as a result, you will find success quicker than ever before.

Have you taken steps to find your true self yet?

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The difference between a novice and a master is that the master has failed more times than a novice has tried.

You can try and fail many times but the real failure is when you stop trying. Failure promotes mental growth as you can deal with problems with ease now that you have gone through so much. Anyone who has tasted success would have experienced a lot of failures. But they don’t complain, rather they work hard and keep trying over and over again until they reach success. To overcome failure, you don’t have to make drastic changes in your lifestyle as others suggest.

It is important to learn from your failures as it teaches how to deal with it if it ever occurs again. But not attempting to learn from it or holding yourself back will give you regrets later when you look back at some point.

Failures are really hard to digest and can sometimes throw you off course from your goals and aspirations. But understanding that it is also a stepping stone to success brings you a sense of comfort and will help you accept it and stay strong.

No matter what life throws at you, you should be willing to get back up and show that you’re fighting another battle that will ultimately take you to success. If you feel that everything is falling apart, use the pieces to reshape and rebuild yourself. Accepting that is the first to overcome failure. Read on as I explain how to overcome failure and lead a happy life.

Be the Best version of yourself.

Why do you want to go and look out for a successful personality when you can be one yourself? Being yourself is not sometimes enough, that’s why you should strive to be a better version of yourself. Be someone who can inspire others to greatness, can help them in hardship, go out of your way to make this a better place. A lonely path can take you to places that no one has ever traveled before whereas following the herd will only get you as far as them. Learn to appreciate that you are unique in your own way and encourage others to lead a better life. The change begins with you.

Take what is useful and leave out the rest.

It can be so easy to absorb everything that you come across and it will be hard to distinguish the good from the bad. Train yourself to adopt only what’s good for you and hone it for perfection. Even if you only know one skill, master it and do it better than anyone else. Keep failing at it until you beat it.

While I agree that there are a lot of bad things in this world, there is still goodness in people’s hearts. If you find something good, learn and nurture it and watch it bring good things to you and the people around. A small act of kindness creates an endless ripple. Success is built from countless failures.

Failure teaches you a lot more than you think.

Failures can be good teachers as they enhance your mind to see your flaws and fix them. Sometimes you have to face failures in order to grow and reach new heights. It is recommended to try and fail rather than do nothing and still fail.

When you’re determined, motivated and have nothing to lose, then you are unstoppable. Be willing to have an open mind to accept criticism and turn them around to grow instead. If you feel you are overwhelmed, take a deep breath, take a step back and realize what is wrong. Sometimes your mind is powerful enough to show the possible solutions to a problem or you can try to get answers from somewhere. More often than not, the solution to every problem lies within yourself.

Keep your Aims Sky High.

When you fail, get back on your legs and work on yourself. Just because you failed a couple of times doesn’t mean you have to give up or settle for something less. When you have a big aim, it is perfectly fine to fail several times. After all, you are destined for much bigger things. The moment you stop giving up, grow and keep doing it over and over again, it becomes an addiction. Even if you don’t reach success, you can rest assured that you gave it your full potential. All the things you learned along the path are yours to keep and will help you somewhere down the line.

Master your inner self.

When you master yourself, you can master everything that’s around you. Ignorance and weakness can prevent you from reaching success even after countless failures. It is important to understand your flaws and work towards correcting them. No one knows you better than yourself and if they say they do they are lying.

Realize your inner potential and beat the odds against you. Prove that you are not someone bound to the walls around you and build yourself an empire to rule.

Forgive yourself.

When you forgive you do not only release the other person. You set yourself free from all of that agony too. Make forgiving yourself a part of your daily life and try not to resent yourself for something that’s happened in the past. It is crucial to not be dragged down by your past, instead focus on what you learned from it and forgive others to get a sense of relief. Failure is discouraging only if you let it remain that way. Focus on rebuilding yourself and never lose sight of your goal.

Live your life fully despite the setbacks.

Failures come to even the best of us and it is how you deal with it, that matters. It is easier to give in and lose your way. But a better way is to smile in the face of adversity and say that you’re not going down that easily.

Most people don’t know their purpose until their late 20s’. They give up way before they even started. Find the inspiration to do things. Sometimes your failures turn out to be your best success story.

“It doesn’t matter what happens but how you take it”, in other words, what matters is your interpretation of the situation and how you take it. Everything will pass in time. What you are going through shall pass too.

Bottomline

A whole world of happiness is waiting on the other side of failures. Failure is a great learning curve and remember, it’s not always too late to change your life. Use your failures as opportunities to grow further and inspire others along the way. If you are waiting for happiness, stop looking for it and start working towards what makes you happy. And that is where happiness is.

How did you overcome failure? Let me know if you have, and what you think of this post in the comments.

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Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.

Rumi

Easier said than done, right?

If you’re grieving at this point, after a week, month or even years, all you need to believe is that the timeline varies for everyone. But be glad that you’re on the path to recovery and half-way through to reaching out to the inner peace. But if you’re still lost and can’t find a way out, let’s get a lot of ice cream and we can get eat our way through this phase.

Why losing a relationship affects you?

Two souls are connected with each other through relationships. A relationship is meant to comfort, soothe pain and add value to our everyday lives. But losing that suddenly removes the central part of what your life moves around. That creates a lot of pain and leaves a void in your heart. And one tries to fill this void over the next course of the months, years. Sometimes it can really take longer than one can anticipate. So you end up wallowing in your sorrows thinking about the past and never really get a move on. And you deeply regret whatever has happened to you, to a point that you lose the purpose of your life. After all, that might’ve been a reason that kept you going all this time and a sudden loss just makes you stranded.

While it may be hard to digest the fact that it is something that’s not coming back, you have to stay strong and walk forward. No matter how long it takes, just don’t look back and begin the walk to your recovery.

Put your feelings in words:

Writing down how you feel sometimes can give you a different perspective on how you view things. When you stroll down the memory lane next time, take a moment and write down how you felt. We remember the past and visualize it better than it actually was. Sometimes you have to be willing to watch it from a different perspective. It will bring out things that you would’ve never really thought about before.

You can also write down bad memories of what made you leave that relationship & how you felt at times when things didn’t work out. Going through what you’ve written when you’re broken, will remind you why you should not feel down. Remember to keep the spirit high and trust yourself.

To love yourself takes priority:

It can be so easy to put all your affection on the other and then when you lose it all, it can be devastating. You will end up blaming yourself for everything that has happened and can not really see the truth as your judgments will be clouded. But loving yourself the same way is all the more essential as it was you who made everything possible until now.

You have your own identity and being the best version of yourself needs more priority than anything else. Be grateful for who you are and learn to accept that it’s going to make you grow stronger and enhance your abilities.

Find what you really need:

When you find yourself always fighting, it means that you have some needs that need to be met. Usually, if it isn’t communicated properly or being ignored by the other person, it can be fatal to a relationship. The best bet is to connect yourself emotionally to understand what they’re trying to convey and see from their end. This will help avoid common relationship mistakes.

To go after someone right after a break-up is not recommended as it can be a rebound relationship. These are short-lived and can only bring you temporary happiness, as rebound relationships are generally the ones we pick up to fill the void we are left with following the previous one. It is advisable to take the time to understand yourself and consider what you are looking for in a relationship. Then, when you are ready to go out there, it would be the best thing that you’ve ever done. You must understand that it takes time to get over someone after a break-up. It’s not something that can be done overnight.

Channel the pain and make it something else:

After a break-up, it is always wise to take the time out and find out what you’re really after. It may be inner peace, passion to do something meaningful, hit the gym or just travel and connect yourself to nature. More often than not, people would always do something listed above to transform the pain into another entity. An entity which is more comforting and makes you better.

Exercise is vital as it helps you build you both your mind and body. This is a great way to build yourself up. If you like to hang out with people, think about all the people you’ve missed spending time with, since you got into this relationship. Friends and family can help you out of tough times as well if you’re in a tough spot.

Great things are waiting for you:

If you’re facing a serious breakup, it can be really bad as it’ll break you mentally and feel like there’s no getting out of it. The whole world which you once liked will turn upside down and positivity is something that is very scarce. However, just realize that you are not alone in this and there are a whole lot of people going through the same as you. If you want, you can always find ways to connect to such people.

All that matters is, whatever happened is in the past. And you will now have to change your life for the better. For people that value you, like your family and friends. It is so easy to give up, but fighting back is not and that’s how you will reap the rewards, later.

This is a post where I talk about how to get the most out of in a relationship and how to avoid common mistakes: Relationship advice.

Some Books to help you on the journey:

If you really like poems and want to move on while gathering courage, then you might want to try this book: Stag’s Leap: Poems. It is beautifully written by Sharon Olds where she explains how to get over someone after a break-up.

If you want to learn your way around the loneliness, make a map of it & sit with it, then this book it the way to go: Eat Pray Love. The author uses encouraging quotes such as this, to motivate the readers.

Another book that deserves a mention is The Alchemist. This book teaches you about life, its purpose, following your dream and a lot of things. It’s recommended even for first-time readers.

Were you able to get over someone after a break-up? Did you use similar methods? If you used alternative methods, do let me know!

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What is Depression?

Depression is a common disorder that is more prevalent among those between ages 15-50. Almost one in three people are affected by it. It can hinder you from leading a normal life or even seeking the help needed to begin your recovery. Lack of energy, low self-esteem, and excitement are some of the symptoms that make it hard to get out of a depressed state. For anyone experiencing this state, it’s important to understand that depression is a treatable disorder. There are a lot of medications available that can help treat you.

Cause of Depression:

The usual cause of depression will be genetic factors or some stressful events in life. There might be a lot of reasons as to why a person is undergoing depression. Might be losing someone, loneliness, unemployment, or anything else that you can imagine. A person undergoing these will start to have a negative view of the things happening to them and these voices inside the head will only make it worse. Start by not paying heed to those inner voices and learn to be positive no matter what.

There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.

Things to do to overcome depression

Here are 6 things to do today to overcome depression and live a life with no regrets:

Do what excites you / something you liked to do before:

People with depression, sometimes don’t even realize that they’re having it and do things that they like. And that’s the state we’re trying to target. Being lazy and staying on the couch all day will only make things worse. Stay active and find a hobby or something that you liked doing in the past. This will re-activate your body and ignite a spark to take the first step towards your recovery. Sometimes, even small things will make a big difference and lift your spirits to achieve something bigger.

Plan something and look forward to it:

Locking away yourself from the outside world is usually a common thing as you start hating everything that’s happening. And that’s what you have to change. If you don’t like a place, just take time off and travel somewhere. It can be solo travel as it’ll give you chances to meet like-minded people or give you new experiences. If you believe you have a purpose in life, then that will be a motivating factor for you and create a spark inside you.

Hearing good things about yourselves:

People undergoing depression will likely thing bad of themselves and they don’t see themselves as not being useful to anyone. Remember some good things in the past and cherish those memories. At some point, you would’ve gone out of your way and helped out someone that would have put a smile on their face. You are more beautiful, smart and better than what you think. The fact that you’re reading this is already a boost to get you back on track to those better days ahead!

Be active and stay fit:

Don’t be numbing out and isolate yourself. Go get a gym membership or simply walk it off every day. Not only is it beneficial to your body, but it also helps increase nerve cell growth which in turn can reduce depression if you follow it regularly. Exercise being a natural element to fight depression has other advantages such as building yourself up physically and mentally.

Talk it out and find peace inside:

Having someone to talk to and being heard is a part of being human. There must be someone who would be willing to hear how you’re feeling. Go let your heart out and sometimes that will soothe the pain that you’re feeling inside and if you don’t want to share something personal, there are online platforms like 7 cups (I’m a volunteer there myself) which can get someone to listen to you and you can still be anonymous if you want. This is something you have to try out.

Get help if nothing works:

If you’ve tried all these and still don’t even feel like you’re getting close, you will need expert assistance. Try getting in touch with Counseling psychologists. They help people with physical, emotional and mental health issues and alleviate feelings of distress and resolve the crisis. You should be proud and pat yourself if you consider seeking the help of a therapist because it takes someone the courage to break out of their shell and reach out for help.

Bottomline

Sometimes a hug is more than a thousand words. Just go hug someone that you like and see their warmth reaching your cold heart. It will be hard for others to understand how you feel. But that’s fine, you are powerful enough and its something that only you can beat. No matter what happens, never give up. Good things will come to you soon.

Let me know your thoughts on this post and if you are undergoing the stages to overcome depression, feel free to reach out to me. I’ll be glad to hear you out! Until then, Hang on to Life!

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